“Life is a series of thousands of tiny miracles. Notice them”Unknown
Hi Family!!! It’s been a minute, hasn’t it? Yep, I know, and I am honestly sorry for that! I know I have been neglecting you all for the last two weeks. I didn’t forget about you, I promise. I have been so wrapped up in life: family, church, reading, and honestly, just enjoying myself. We tend to get so focused on everything going on in life, that we forget to actually live it. I have noticed more and more lately, that those little things we tend to overlook, are some of the best moments we are ignoring. Those are moments we should be soaking up.
I have been deep into enjoying these little things. I worked on my patio yesterday. I busted my butt because I LOVE sitting out there, overlooking the pool that I cannot yet use because of Covid… I love being outside with a glass of wine and a book, just sitting there, enjoying the sunshine and the cool ocean breeze. Those small, insignificant things, the breeze and sunshine, is something so many people take for granted. You know that old saying “stop and smell the flowers”? That has been a motto of my Covid life. Honestly, I am so grateful for it too. If we didn’t have this pandemic happen, I would have been working, no stop like usual. I would have never had the opportunity to sit on my patio and relax and unwind.
Far too often we get so fixated on the big things: work, bills, sports, keeping up with the Jones’s at the end of the block. Hardly do we ever find time to just sit back and watch the clouds move, or stand outside and take a deep breath in and just be in the moment. Over this past year, that is something I realized I took for granted. Now, I have always been one to stop and watch the sunsets, or stare up at the stars for waaaayyyyy too long, but how often do I overlook the other simple things in my life. This past year I have realized I over looked so many little things, that I have since, been able to deeply enjoy.
Children are no “little thing”, that’s for sure. However, a lot of their everyday stuff can be little. Over the course of this last 11 months, I have really paid attention to my little one and the boyfriend’s little one. I have noticed things I have never noticed before. For example, I never really paid attention to how much attention I was actually giving my teenager. Sure, I talk to her here and there, check in with her and her friends, and we go out and about together, but I found myself paying a lot more attention to her and those little things. Turns out, she is a lot more touchy than I am, or anyone in our family. I figured out this kid just needs more hugs, reassurance that she is loved, etc.. B has always been an interesting child. She has gone through a lot of stuff in a short 13, almost 14 years. I will be the first to admit that I have not always been present for her. Since I realized that, and started paying attention to those little things, I have noticed a world of a difference in her. She is doing better in school, she is happier, more pleasant, funnier, and she is inviting me more and more into her life and the gossip within her world. I know to some of you out there, you are probably thinking “DUH Lyndsey, of course if you pay more attention to her, she is going to let you in to her life more” or something of that nature and you are 100% right. Sometimes it just takes me a little longer to learn that. What can I say, I know I am not perfect. None of us are.
Other little things that have been brought into my life by being “present” include the random and fun conversations the 3 year old has with her dolls while she is in the bath tub. Some of her conversations are absolutely hilarious. Last week, they were all having a party in the tub and she talked non stop for a solid 20 minutes, laughing and giggling. It was so precious. Had I had the TV on or been focused on my phone, I would have missed that party conversation. What I am really getting at with this is to be present and pay attention to those small, insignificant things. They honestly make such a difference.
Continuing on with this topic, bleeding over into the world of friends. Paying attention to the little things within your friendships is also going to make such a difference, and dare I say, will bring your friendships closer. I have slowly been focusing on my friendships and rebuilding them, now that I can confidently say I have rebuilt myself, still under construction, as always, but I am in such a better spot. Now that I am good, I can focus on who is good in my life and how I can be good in theirs. Diving more into the little things, like a simple “Thinking about you” text or mailing a card of encouragement to them when you know they are feeling low. Those are a few little things I have been doing to help rekindle my friendships. Most of my friends appreciate and reciprocate that back, others I have found, stay silent. That is okay too, I cannot force those into my life that choose to stay away. At the end of the day, they know where I stand and that I am there for them, no matter what. Paying attention to their patterns and habits may seem like a lot, especially if you are a busy working mom with a lot on your plate. It takes a whole 5 seconds to just send a text with a heart emoji or let them know you are thinking of them. The little things my friends. Its all about those little things.
Yep, I have to touch base here, because this one is important. When we first start dating someone, we try to go above and beyond for them, as often as possible, to show them how much we care or how much we love that person. As the months and years go by, those grand gestures slowly fade away. That does not mean the love is gone. The love is still there, it just took a different form. Those little things, yep, that’s where the love now is.
This is one I am constantly reminding myself to pay attention to. This kind of goes hand in hand with knowing each others love language, so read into that a bit if you have not already done it. I cant speak on all of your relationships, so I will speak out about mine. My handsome boyfriend is far from the touchy feely, mushy, sap that I am. He tells me he loves me everyday, several times, but how does he show it? Several times throughout the months, he has woken me up with a fresh cup of coffee waiting for me on my night stand. I can go on and on about the small little things he does, but I wont bore you with them. The truth is, those little things are the most important things. With out them, none of the big things would matter.
A Better World
We have got to slow down and pay attention to the small things in our every day lives. If you don’t, I promise you, your life will not be as great as you want it to be. Stop and watch the birds fly, the clouds move, or a plane pass by. Go to the beach and just watch the waves, watch the families around you interact, listen to the laughs. In today’s world, all everyone talks about is the negative. If we tried a little harder on those small things, I bet the world would easily be better.
I leave you with these thoughts:
When talking to a cashier, a waitress, or anyone with a name tag, use their name. Ask how they are and pay attention to them talk. Boost the confidence of your friend who is trying to make a change in their life, regardless of what it is. Be their support. Smile at a stranger, and if you happen to be wearing a mask, nod your head at them. Make people feel seen and heard. That smile or nod could be the one thing that saves a person from committing suicide. Be honest with yourself and those around you. Even a simple lie can hurt. Open the door for someone. All these little things may be insignificant to you, but to someone else, it is a big thing.
Stay well my friends,
Love Lyndsey ♥️